When I talk to people about change and living better, I don't make out to be the most loving perfect person on planet earth that goes around being positive all the time.
I am however a perfect example of what positivity, personal development and love can do.
If I had to describe myself to someone else I would saying a relatively friendly guy who is into fitness and helping people. If I had to describe the old me to someone I say a racist, uneducated degenerate with nothing to offer. I don't say that to make myself sound any better or worse. Its just a self assessment on 10 years of change.
I had a conversation with a young adult in prison and he asked me what was the hardest, but also the most important thing to lasting positive change. I thought about it. I said to him getting rid of (if necessary) friends and influences in your life that should no longer be there. Yes we are all accountable for our own actions, thoughts, feelings etc . But I'll give you a small example, my best friend for 6 years, he was probably the person that showed me the most about lifting weights in my life. But as I went on , made a career out of it, made my life about it. For what ever reason he would react negatively towards me - almost randomly. For example we would have a disagreement , he would unfollow my facebook business page. A small petty thing none the less, but when you are trying to change, or do great things, or evolve. These small actions, or shots, or negative behavior - what ever you want to call it.
Basically rolls down to - if you cant count on your best friend with something as simple as supporting your business by liking it , how can you count on them for bigger things, or do they even deserve a seat at your table?
This might some sound harsh to some, other people might be reading this and already thinking of a few people they need to take this kind of action with.
Now I'm not saying completely cut everyone off and only look after yourself. It's quite the opposite. The day I decided everyone near me were always, loving, positive and driven (most of the time) I also regulate are they doing things that are looking after their best interest, and mine.
Once I started doing this I had more, time energy and love - to then give to other people and my business. and when you are in the helping people business you need alot of it.
God speed. Fittsy