What do you have a fear of? Heights? Sharks? Clowns?
I have a fear of moths. No shit. Cripples me, people think its hilarious. But one thing WE ALL fear at some point in our life is fear of what others think of us or at least perceive us. You may know me, or this maybe your first contact with me. I can seem pretty eccentric to someone who has never met me, an attention seeker even - but I always kick you the real deal 99% percent of the time.
(that 1% will get ya)
That is something I discovered yesterday , I was in a meeting working on something that is basically why I got into the fitness industry and the planets seemed to have aligned and I was talking about something I am 100% real in.
Now the person sitting across from me had seen me in person once, and done some research on me in through social media and other sources. (300 youtube videos, 2500 instagram posts and 10,000+ 'fans' on facebook, theres alot info by me or about me).
As we spoke for an hour or so they looked me in the eye "are you who you make out to be?"
I slowly spat out a hesitant ' yes ' - to paraphrase , because accepting my identity in the flesh, was accepting the good and the bad - and there's alot of both. Alot more good in the last 10 years. So why was I afraid to accept who I was , something I talk about so freely 'being unapologetically you' why was I suddenly so reluctant to back up who I was. I mean every business meeting I've walked away from in a positive position - I've been wearing a tank top and just been myself.
It was because I was afraid of who I am (or was) was going to cost me what I wanted. But the reality was I was in that position speaking with this person because of who I am , or well 'was' just as much. Where I had been, what I know, and who I am had put me finally where I wanted to be. Why couldn't I put my hand up. I am Dan Fitts (prisoner 190800)
Having working and mastering my craft of being able to teach , train and coach people. From multimillionaires, to the kid the works at the corner cafe. From girls with weight and self esteem issues to grown men with alcohol and drug problems. I can proudly say I have helped 100s, maybe 1000s of people.
Am I saint , jesus no. Am I great guy , I can honestly say I'm probably a bit of dick some times ( but hey everyones a work in progress)
Just as proud of all the good I've done, I not 'ashamed' so to speak , but I've learnt to wear all my past mistakes. Even using them lessons to others, hilariously naming a program I used to do with kids 'dont do what Dan Fitts does' -did
I've pretty open about who I am since Gold Coast , to Phuket to now Townsville. Which leads me to what I'm saying (fear of being yourself - I think that's where this was all going) As I started to go from squeaky clean fitness professional, to create lessons, metaphors and just sharing my past experiences to coach people. I was literally still the exact same fitness professional , the same person even, its that some people didn't like what they were hearing. They liked the old me , the 'squeaky clean me' , when in fact the 'old me' was exactly opposite.
A very successful friend of mine once said "if I can help 10,000 people but it means 10,000 people will hate me. I'm still gonna help the 10,000 people."
Confidence is key, to success. Any success and confidence has to come from within first before anything manifests in the real world.
Fear, lack of confidence, has become almost an epidemic. People building online avatars of who they would like to be , but are no where near the same in person - I mean this both personally and physically.
I heard something crazy as young girls will post a photo online and if it doesn't get x amount of likes in x amount of time. They will delete it. Crazy. I'm sure young guys do this to , hell I'm sure older guys have done it. Trust me, post the damn photo , leave it there. Apply for that job , get rejected. Ask that person out, get rejected.
You'll live. It will all ultimately lead you somewhere, and you'll never know where unless you try (and by try I mean stick to and commit at something)
It's a risk , it is a risk putting yourself on the line. Being 'transparent', but if your in the healing, fitness or health game. It's probably in your best interest to be this way, I've even unbranded myself from Fittman PT to Dan Fitts.
'I'd rather be hated for who I am, then liked for who I am not'
Life gave me another set, and I am going to rock.
My names Dan Fitts , and I believe it Fitness.