The reality is , it is easier to do nothing, then it is to do something.
In the short term.
But why do we complicate things with stories about why we can't do something, or worse yet, not telling the truth to ones we seek for guidance.
If you have been in front of as many judges as I have, you'll find have the opportunity to say or do anything to 'get off' , avoid punishment, I mean yes you can tell the truth, play the sympathy card to the judge, or can roll the dice on a story to avoid consequence - if the dots line up and the judge buys it of course. (I'm not saying to ever do that , but its always an option)
Well I'm not a judge, and I don't believe most of the shit people tell me. For good reason, I go the extra mile with alot of the people I work with. For example ,
I'm sitting by a roof top pool in phuket back in December, texting one of my clients about what she needs to eat for the week - mind you i'm on holiday , but hey I love what I do and I'm helping someone so all good. But the thing is I have eyes everywhere, and news gets back to me this client is walking around the grocery store in active wear putting donuts in her basket.
This is somewhat a common thing - instead of saying 'I'm really struggling with this healthy eating thing, can we talk about the reasons why I can't seem to do it'
'hey I appreciate your texting me while on holiday - but I actually cant be fucked sticking to a diet....'
Instead people play these crazy games with me - pretending to eat good all week while their skin is breaking out from all the sugar they've been eating, talking about how much cardio they do, but struggling to get through a few rounds of bag work.
You will get a whole lot further with a trainer (or even on your own) if you are honest with yourself, about where your at, how serious you are and how really committed to doing what ever it is you said you want to do.
I recently used a mindset coach for a fight , we spent a good deal of time talking about my serious issues with anger, which is a handicap in fighting, its a handicap in life. But the only way to deal with issues, correct errors, is to face them , to talk about them , to be honest about how good - or bad - things really are. Thats not a glamorous story , but there you go.
Like I said at the start, I've probably bent the truth a little with some judges, but I hope you can appreciate my honesty there - to bring home the point, if you really want to change, grow, get better , be honest with the person you've selected to help you.
From the get go , the old 'I need to ask the partner before I commit' - then go MIA, or 'I'm doing everything I can' - while grocery shopping for donuts, to post about 'you do what ever it takes' on Instagram - then complain to your trainer about doing another 10.
The truth, being honest, doing hard work, failing ,committing - its not glamorous, in-fact alot of the time it fucking sucks. But at least you don't have to live with the shame you know you could do better, or you know your not being straight about something - which then in turn creates guilt and shame , that can then trigger destructive behavior. It can be a full cycle of pain unless you just bite the bullet, the truth, or even just accept you are happy to live in 'the comfort zone'.
We are all human, I've fucked up , lied, done all kinds of things.
As long as your correct the errors, continue to work on yourself, that's all you can do.