As I progress on my own journey/process as a coach, a man, a speaker.
Just like any success or growth, there are mistakes and failures. More to the point sometimes you just piss people off. Despite what some people think, it is never my intention. Although I am good at it.
As the Daily Freedom Path community and 'program' evolves, so do I. And like any growth, there are growing pains. Around this time last year I made the statement "most of you are fucked up, because your parents fucked you up, I am the alpha role model you needed so you don't fuck your kids up and can actually change yourself."
To paraphrase, it was something like that. Strangely enough within 24 hours a third of the members of the DFP pulled out of contracts, quit, gave up or disappeared. The ones that did communicate that they were bailing, denied it was a connection and that time and money or something had now 'got in the way'.
As you read this you probably see that as clear as I did, they left because I either offended them, insulted someone or they didn't agree. That's the thing, you don't have to agree with me, but it is my 'job' to challenge men's values, beliefs and standards. And should those things fold, we find out why they are were they are.
No one sets out to drop the ball as a parent, at least I like to think that. No one wants to hurt or damage their kids, especially when their parents did the same thing. So why is it most people, most men, repeat the same or similar mistakes their parents did?
I have a number of tried and tested teachings, so to speak, that reveal to a man why and then what to DO once they acknowledge this. From forgiveness, to creating a new identity, to role playing and being able to say something to these Fathers or Mothers (that didn't fuck them up apparently - yet most members have this problem) on their own that they wouldn't have been able to or just not wanted to.
It seems pretty simple doesn't it? Most of it is simple. Just incredibly hard. What kind of man wants to admit they are a shit Dad? Probably not the same man that is quite happy to blame their father.
This is where men get triggered and even sabotage their own process of becoming the man that they want to be. For example me saying something out loud to them, that hasn't been delivered in the best manner so to speak ie "your parents fucked you up." - as above. Yet here's the thing, those feelings, that anger, being 'insulted'. That just tells you, you're probably on the right path to dealing with and moving through some mental road blocks.
Who in their right mind would want to trigger men, then help them work through it, so they can get what they want? Yours truly.
The exact same way if you were driving and I had set a physical road block in front of you. You can yell, scream, lie, hide all you want. You're not getting through.
I know this because I went through this process myself. I went through all of them myself. Sometimes by my own self discovery, then other times guided by someone else. To the same painful truths - someone fucked up me or I fucked up someone else- again to paraphrase.
As I continue to write these, share my wisdom and at the very least have the desire to help men that may not ever pay me or even contact me. I will break down, share and unlock why the home environment is key to man and/or his families success.
I've also kept refining this message - so it is less harsh then what I said earlier.
Because unlike most men, I don't change my approach based on how people think or feel about me. This is how you need to operate to as a man, as you have probably discovered on your own.
If you don't back yourself, you end up taking it out on the people closest to you.
We are currently in the information age. What a time to be alive. Information available at any time, for anything.
It is all there. It is a large part of what got me to where I am today. We are now entering the age of enlightenment or something like that. If you ask any woke person on Instagram, that is what they would tell you.
"The Age of Enlightenment (or simply the Enlightenment) is a term used to describe a time in Western philosophy and cultural life, centred upon the eighteenth century, in which reason was advocated as the primary source and legitimacy for authority." Just got that from the magic of the internet.
I was having a conversation about it in my friends tattoo shop in Thailand sometime last year about this, as you do.
Here's the thing. I remember being a mechanic. I remember driving forklifts, trucks, packing boxes. I didn't give a fuck about elections, bitcoin or the having to think about 'what ifs', 'global emergencies' or 'new world order'.
But that was the thing, I didn't give a fuck. Most men don't not only about themselves, but about most things around them. As someone who taught me how to speak once said "They do enough to keep from getting fired, but not enough to get anywhere".
This is where the information age has led us. Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times - then here we are, good times create weak men... who create.. you guessed it. Hard times.
I have spent the last decade studying. Studying things that men would like to pay attention to, but don't have time. Things men are afraid to talk about, but most think about.
I have a lot of the answers to the questions most men ask.
That's a large part of what the DFP is.
The reality is this. Whether it is the information age, the enlightenment age, the fucking bitcoin age. No one is coming to save you. Not me, not God, not Donald Trump, not your bitcoin that you purchased way too late in the game.
That's also the good news. Do what you can, where you are, with what you have.
That is it. If you have a smart phone, 100usd in the bank and you're healthy. You've already won the lottery. Most western men don't get that.
I came from a broken home, booted from high-school, went to prison, have come close to death more times then I like to think about. And I am still here, writing this, healthier, happier and more successful then most men who had it 100 times easier or better then that.
Personally I think we are entering the age of Not Being A Pussy.
Where men take the steering wheel of their lives and together we drive this bitch called reality into some powerful and amazing times for everyone.
But I am an optimist.
Time will tell.