We all have the keys to exactly what we want , some of us are born into much more fortunate situations then others. Some have to go through somewhat unpleasant experiences at times , but if you're sitting there reading this on your smart phone or pc , I imagine lifes dealt you enough fortune to sit down and read this blog.
What bought you here, what created the technology were using to communicate, what has constructed the majority of your own life. Your mind.
My mind operated at a basic level , enough to keep me alive, get me to my teenage years. Where I started to read, I started to learn, I began to study. How did people that came from the same circumstances I did , if not worse. Then get to where I couldn't even imagine or understand how they did it.
And that was it - belief. Or imagination. Day Dreaming even, something we are told not to do. Time spent commuting on the train , time spent in mind numbing dead end jobs. In these times I would imagine myself, where I wanted to be, how I wanted to look, what I wanted to be doing. Crazily enough (with a large amount of work, risk and sacrifice) my 'visualization' came some what true. Obviously that dream or image changed some what , as it does , over the years.
But this is something we can all do , something some of us forget to do , an then some of has have taken to another level. Visualization , meditation , positive belief / manifestation what ever you want to call it. Not only is this the key to fitness and health goals (if you can believe it, you can achieve it) it is the key to achieving almost anything (the mental side at least)
Imagine yourself - doing what you want, driving what you want, being with your ideal partner, living where you want to live. I mean when you really sit down and do this. Even without a tangible plan , you can literally just feel better just by visualizing these things, which can then drive you take massive action. Which is what it generally takes to manifest.
But be warned, with great power comes great responsibility, if you let things like the news/tv , negative people, negative thoughts, worrying, etc. Your unlimited power can quickly become your biggest weakness if you do not control the power and content of your thoughts.
Just like training in the gym , it takes some time to master, and it needs to be done regularly to bring about change.
But it is what gets you started on the rest of your life being the best of your life.
In my early years (which is where I assume we all pick up our behaviors) I was surround by anger, violence, fear and intimidation. These are probably not considered desired qualities or characteristics. But this is what was around me and they are the behavior patterns that I adopted.
They did serve me for sometime. I mean that is why we do anything, behave certain ways. The word literally says it itself. BE a certain way - HAVE to have what you want. Behave - behavior. Now like I said these behaviors had there time and place for what ever reason.
But as my goals, life, circle of people changed around me. These behaviors no longer served me. Is it as simple as adopting a new set of behaviors? yes I guess so. But adopting new behaviors is the same as adopting new habits (healthier ones). They begin to feel good at the start, but as stress is added, or pressure, or fear even - we revert back to our old behaviors out of instinct. Which once worked for you, no longer does, and most likely causes more pain. As your old patterns are no longer serving you.
Another way I have discovered to really hit this home and find a solution. When you find yourself faced with a situation that could lead to poor behavior or poor habits. Don't allow yourself to reason why its justified , or 'its just one more beer' or find fault in something or someone else.
Accept that the outcome is up to you, and when you realize a habit or behavior is not longer serving you, ask yourself - Is this taking me closer or further from where I want to go and who I want to be.
You'll know the answer and then you know what to do.
we are all learning in life, all on the road to recovery at some stage and all on the path to best versions of ourselves (hopefully).
they say most of your problems (or behavioral issues) stem from some kind of childhood trauma or incident. Is that accurate? I don't know.
All I can do is share my experiences with you and maybe you can relate. My childhood wasn't great, it wasn't the worst, but it wasn't the best. My biggest problem being at times I treat people I care about the most, the worst. Or at the very least better then I treat a stranger.
I caught up with a friend on the weekend, someone I've known for about 10 years. I know many people of admire the trust, respect and connection we have. But it was not always the case, sure we started off friends. Then there was fights, alot of them, we said and did things that caused us not to talk for over a year.
Why we started talking again I can't remember, why we stopped I can't remember either. This is what I believe is the most important thing in life, family, friends, what ever you want to call those rock solid relationships in your life.
Especially when your on the road to a better life , having people you can call at anytime, trust with your life, tell things to without being judged. Having those relationships are priceless. Like I said though they are not perfect. I mean a years along time to not talk, but not in the scheme of things.
I mainly meet people through fitness or the gym (no surprises there) but having moved and traveled around so much , I guess I've created this network or community of positive and like minded people. I like to believe I'm putting in some serious hard work on improving myself and becoming 'better' , but like they say you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. So I must be hanging around some fucking cool people.
No ones perfect, but with the right people you can get things pretty close.
I come humble beginnings , failed at public school, straight into dead in jobs. Apart from some what successful competitive swimming stint in grade school , no real success or progression in life (until the last few years of my life anyway).
Apart from the qualifications I have in health and fitness, everything is either self taught or manifested through work. And that’s what this blog is about.
When people approach me about a certain goal, they either want to know everything in one conversation or they are worried about the things that really don’t matter so much (should I lift heavy or light weights etc). Until you start walking the road, taking the actions, putting in consistent action cramming in all the information is some what (not completely) but some what pointless.
It’s like someone that goes to University for 4 years and then leaves to go work in Mcdonalds with no intention of ever using their degree. Not that theres anything wrong with that, live how ever you choose to. But it’s the same thing with what I’m talking about so many people seek out WHAT to do do, google, youtube , trainer advice on their goals. Then take that same information and stick in on the book shelf of their mind.
Its great to have a plan, its great to have a trainer. But don’t consume your self in the WHAT just get started in the action. Because whether its fitness, business, or anything else. A lot of the time it’s the ones taking regular and consistent action that reach their goal sooner then ones that have all the information but aren’t doing a single thing with it.
Simple advice, but it’s a simple concept, talk less – do more, stop asking what works for you – find out what works for you, stop changing course everytime you find out a new bit of information and just stick at some for a few months and see if its working for you.
Simple as that.
What do you have a fear of? Heights? Sharks? Clowns?
I have a fear of moths. No shit. Cripples me, people think its hilarious. But one thing WE ALL fear at some point in our life is fear of what others think of us or at least perceive us. You may know me, or this maybe your first contact with me. I can seem pretty eccentric to someone who has never met me, an attention seeker even - but I always kick you the real deal 99% percent of the time.
(that 1% will get ya)
That is something I discovered yesterday , I was in a meeting working on something that is basically why I got into the fitness industry and the planets seemed to have aligned and I was talking about something I am 100% real in.
Now the person sitting across from me had seen me in person once, and done some research on me in through social media and other sources. (300 youtube videos, 2500 instagram posts and 10,000+ 'fans' on facebook, theres alot info by me or about me).
As we spoke for an hour or so they looked me in the eye "are you who you make out to be?"
I slowly spat out a hesitant ' yes ' - to paraphrase , because accepting my identity in the flesh, was accepting the good and the bad - and there's alot of both. Alot more good in the last 10 years. So why was I afraid to accept who I was , something I talk about so freely 'being unapologetically you' why was I suddenly so reluctant to back up who I was. I mean every business meeting I've walked away from in a positive position - I've been wearing a tank top and just been myself.
It was because I was afraid of who I am (or was) was going to cost me what I wanted. But the reality was I was in that position speaking with this person because of who I am , or well 'was' just as much. Where I had been, what I know, and who I am had put me finally where I wanted to be. Why couldn't I put my hand up. I am Dan Fitts (prisoner 190800)
Having working and mastering my craft of being able to teach , train and coach people. From multimillionaires, to the kid the works at the corner cafe. From girls with weight and self esteem issues to grown men with alcohol and drug problems. I can proudly say I have helped 100s, maybe 1000s of people.
Am I saint , jesus no. Am I great guy , I can honestly say I'm probably a bit of dick some times ( but hey everyones a work in progress)
Just as proud of all the good I've done, I not 'ashamed' so to speak , but I've learnt to wear all my past mistakes. Even using them lessons to others, hilariously naming a program I used to do with kids 'dont do what Dan Fitts does' -did
I've pretty open about who I am since Gold Coast , to Phuket to now Townsville. Which leads me to what I'm saying (fear of being yourself - I think that's where this was all going) As I started to go from squeaky clean fitness professional, to create lessons, metaphors and just sharing my past experiences to coach people. I was literally still the exact same fitness professional , the same person even, its that some people didn't like what they were hearing. They liked the old me , the 'squeaky clean me' , when in fact the 'old me' was exactly opposite.
A very successful friend of mine once said "if I can help 10,000 people but it means 10,000 people will hate me. I'm still gonna help the 10,000 people."
Confidence is key, to success. Any success and confidence has to come from within first before anything manifests in the real world.
Fear, lack of confidence, has become almost an epidemic. People building online avatars of who they would like to be , but are no where near the same in person - I mean this both personally and physically.
I heard something crazy as young girls will post a photo online and if it doesn't get x amount of likes in x amount of time. They will delete it. Crazy. I'm sure young guys do this to , hell I'm sure older guys have done it. Trust me, post the damn photo , leave it there. Apply for that job , get rejected. Ask that person out, get rejected.
You'll live. It will all ultimately lead you somewhere, and you'll never know where unless you try (and by try I mean stick to and commit at something)
It's a risk , it is a risk putting yourself on the line. Being 'transparent', but if your in the healing, fitness or health game. It's probably in your best interest to be this way, I've even unbranded myself from Fittman PT to Dan Fitts.
'I'd rather be hated for who I am, then liked for who I am not'
Life gave me another set, and I am going to rock.
My names Dan Fitts , and I believe it Fitness.