I was born in a strange generation, my childhood was somewhere around 'snake' being the most high tech piece of technology on a phone to being an adult being almost completely reliant on my smart phone. (I like to believe i'm using it for business...)
I remember when you couldn't google review gyms, meet the staff on facebook or get workout advice , therapy sessions and every single possible answer at the click of a button on youtube.
Although no matter how comfortable, convenient and connected we now are. There is one thing that hasn't changed - you still need to do the fucking work. Whether its change your physique , increase your income , meet that ideal partner - and keep them. Technology hasn't been able to by pass the amazing by product of consistent action.
I see it all the time, no matter how many pictures you post of yourself on Instagram of your physique - it won't change without work. No matter how many positive messages you share on facebook , you still need to dig yourself out of lifes challenges and no matter how many self help videos you watch on youtube. You're the one that still needs to take the fucking action.
Now depending on which kind of person you are, you might think i'm being pretty realistic or maybe even kind of pessimistic. But there is nothing wrong with work, there is nothing wrong realizing your life is up to you, because this is what shaped me and every other client I've had success with.
We live in a soft society. When the going gets tough, instead of rolling up our sleeves and putting in work, we cry and take a 'sick day'. Instead of admiring others doing well , we shoot them down and condemn them - then explain all the reasons why we can't do what there doing.
The gym built my physique, the library built my mind, but it was challenges and hard times and never backing down and getting up again and again and again that built my character. And I think that's what most people are lacking , character, integrity , loyalty , resilience. Instead of fighting the good fight and standing up for their dreams, and their beliefs and themselves. We'd rather sit in front of our TV and eat comfort food and drink ourselves stupid on the weekend to hide from the fact a comfortable hell is easier then a unfamiliar heaven.
I'm not telling you how to live, I never do, I'm just saying if your unhappy you probably know why, and it's probably going to take work to fix. The same work your not doing that's put you in this position.
Hell I do the same thing, but if I missed my shot at something, its because I didn't do the work. Nothing else.
Just got back recently got back from Thailand, met some new people, caught up with some old friends and new friends. A regular topic of conversation is how I look ( I never bring it up ). People want to know how long I train, what I do, where I do it, do I get more attention from girls, does it make life easier etc etc
I've been training long before attention on social media - which is why so many people seem to do it these days. People 'need to see' your workout, your diet, how good you look. This is not a sustainable reason to want to do something.
People who I have met that have 'made it' in their chosen field. Whether they are financially, emotionally, spiritually rich. 99% percent of the time it has come from passion and consistent work. Not because they sought approval or attention of others.
If their is one thing I know , its body and lifestyle transformations , whether they are 8 weeks or 8 years, complete overhauls or just 'leveling up'. To become good or even great at what I do. Like anything it has taken hours and hours mastering my craft, learning , growing, assessing and changing and lots of sacrifice and discipline.
At this point in my life I have gone from having almost no control , to being focused and committed to what I want and who I am. Do I have every facet of life mastered... not even close. At what I do, would I call myself a master?
No, because I believe you never stop learning.
So what ever you want to do - theres going to be an x time , an x-effort, an x-sacrifice. The x-time is going to pass anyway. You just need to figure out if the thing you want is worth the all three x's. If its something you think about daily, an obsession even. Then its worth it.
Once you've decided what you want, does the universe just open the gates and give you access to everything you desire. No, sometimes you need patience, try a different gate, sometimes just even jump the damn gate. Its going to hard, its going to test you, its going to challenge you. But this is how if you learn whether its for you or not. You never ever ever quit.
So sure it would be easy not to do the work, not to make the sacrifice, not go through added stresses, not to spend hours on personal development. But you no what else is not easy - being broke, over weight, unhappy, tired, bored, unfulfilled.
These are the by products of ignoring those 'gut feelings' of what you know you should be doing and settling for average.
If what your doing is hard, but its what you want to do, then just do it hard.
Ill leave you with this
“You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle…
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
― Steve Jobs
'Say your driving down the road, you get a flat tyre. Who do you contact? One of your friends you care for and created a strong bond with - you'd do anything for each other OR a loyal follower on some form of social media - that's probably likely to unfollow you as soon as they become bored of you.
You've had a bad day, a really bad day. Do you sit down and confide in a someone that always has your back, or do you shoot a DM (private message) to someone who regularly comments on your physique pictures.
In the world of instant gratification, likes, follows, social media (making us more disconnected then ever). I feel we are losing what's most important, communication and that communication at one stage in time was on a tribal level, of maybe 20 humans. Now the more we 'blow up' become 'Instagram famous' we lose touch with reality about who or what is important. And that one thing is people, the real, close, and genuine people who care about your actual well being.
I had a business venture go south not too long ago, did someone from my social media reach out and offer support, were people who regularly like my content everyday - some of which said changed their life - help me find my feet. No, and that's fine - that's not what these 'relationships' are about. A life long friend put me up , got me motivated, and away I went.
I can honestly say I haven't always been the most loyal, supportive, understanding friend. But I try every damn day to be. Because I realized a while ago, there is only a handful of people in your life time who will - pick you up from hospital - help you move - buy your product or service (even when they don't need it) - fight your battles with you. Hold on to these people, cherish them.
We live in a different world now, 1000's of 'friends', even more followers, views, likes and the rest. And while I am grateful for everyone of mine. Especially clients, customers and anyone who has invested in me. Always remember though gym is 'not life', your blog/post/video can and should wait for the person in front of you and although you should aim to provide the best information/entertainment/version of you to the world (if that's what you choose to use social media for). Just remember, like a world champion fighter I used to know said 'everyone loves you when you on top, whos around when your not is who matters'