I had a client ask me 'how do I get motivated at this gym stuff, like you?'.
I thought about it, I don't think I can single it down to one thing.
What I can say though is I was not always motivated , especially when it came to a healthy lifestyle or physical exercise.
But what changed? like most people there was a point where I needed to do something - doctors advice, pain of looking a certain way, career requirement, there can be a number of reasons why people start something. Mine was learning how to defend myself.
Then from there, I built skills like discipline, self control, a good work ethic just to name a few. Although I enjoyed what I was doing, like anything in life I began to plateu , get bored, what ever it was I decided to branch out, constantly seek more information , to the point where it became 'what I do' my life - so to speak.
Like the girl who asked me about motivation , the same goes for her, shes a dancer, quite good at what she does, and in a very specific style of dance. There is so much more to fitness and a healthy life style then just one size fits all programs. There's martials arts, weights, crossfit, zumba, the list goes on - they all have a relatively positive effect on you. But they all cater for different types of people.
The same way we enjoy going to a job we love vs one we don't. The same way we love to wear our favorite clothes vs wear a work uniform. FInd out what it is you enjoy doing for your body , mind , and training - then you won't need the motivation. You will automatically do it, and most likely excel.
But the same way alot of us don't seek out what we enjoy doing for work , we do the same with training, basically because its uncomfortable trying new things, its hard starting from the bottom, but whats the alternative. An unmotivated life.
At least with your training anyway.
There is no way to go through life to never make a mistake or never do the wrong thing, its how we learn and how we grow.
Ideally learning and not repeating things that do not benefit us.
That is the crazy thing though about our species, as smart as we are, why do we continue to do things, even though we know if the long term they are no good for us.
Eating that extra piece of cake - every night, going out drinking every weekend - although you know you cant afford it, watching the 3rd hour of net flix - even though you have to get that report done before tomorrow.
Why do we do these things , even though we actually know better!
I'm not sure, I mean its insane behavior , but what we can do is re-train the brain, replace these negative behavior patterns with more positive ones. Its the same way someone steals a loaf of bread to feed their family, even though they know its wrong.
But what got them to the point they need to steal, just to eat.
Its the same way you don't really want to eat 25 chocolates in one sitting, but somewhere through your journey of life you've worked out that 5 minutes or so of pleasure, is worth the years of been over weight, each day spent been unhappy about how you look - having no energy etc
But if you go a little deeper, its the why. Why do you do things in excess, seeking that small amount of pleasure at any cost necessary. It can be a number of things -
Its more the why do we need to seek out pleasure from these things when should the gift of life be fulfilling enough on its own ?
To a point , but like I mentioned , intuition , a gut feeling , a higher power, what ever you want to call it - when you are spending each day for example going to drive trucks, when deep down you know you want to be a painter , but for what ever reason you don't pursue it. It causes an uneasy feeling , which is fine you don't always get what you want it life. But what happens when you come home, you seek out pleasure from the life you are no longer enjoying. In the form of a drink, food, TV something to take your mind off the empty feeling you have from 'settling'.
This is just one example, another scenario could be you've been in relationship a few years you know its gone south, but instead of moving on to something better or being on your own, you stay , but what do you with that feeling that is still there knowing that the relationship no longer serves you? Start drinking each night, who knows? Its just a common scenario . Like I said at the beginning , why else would we continuously do these things that we know make us feel good short term - but will have dramatic negative effects long term.
This is why again , fitness, looking after yourself is always the solution, when you have a strong body and mind. It is easy (easier) to move onto the next job, to find the ideal partner, to pursue your passion in painting. What ever it is that you know your neglecting that gets you into cycle or limbo or short term pleasures to 'escape' reality.
We all make mistakes,
but when it becomes a destructive habit, you need to look at why and what is causing it. If you would like some guidance through this, get in touch with me.
Saying the word heroin already this sounds controversial.
So I'm giving a presentation about 'being present' and as I get to the part about smart phones and social media, I notice most people nodding their head - as in 'wow , thats me' .
Time and energy are our most precious resources and without monitoring your thoughts and behavior you can unintentionally find yourself staring mindlessly into a screen or even worse the only time you really feel good is when see you those little red hearts as notifications (the colour red most used in advertising as its shown to be the colour the gets the most attention).
Drinking , gambling, over eating - yes will probably wreak havoc on your health and life, but the crazy thing is so will smart phones , social media , video games etc if you are not regulating when, why and how long you use these things. Personally with my business I use alot of platforms of social media and also different apps and could probably do 10 hours of work straight from my phone and laptop alone. But what happens when you go for coffee with a partner, go out to the club or even the gym. You find yourself not being able to focus, dropping what your doing once you hear that 'ding' , or even having to document your experiences so other people can see it , while not actually being present and enjoying it yourself. Madness , right. You might have a problem. An addict.
Like anything though, I don't suggest or believe in banning things - I mean the war on drugs had no negative side effects on society right? But what I do suggest is basically what I recommend with training, eating, lifestyle - record what your doing, how long you did it for, how you feel while your doing, is it effecting you in a positive or negative way.
I'm sure we've all been in the situation with one person when your there, and they're well... not , and I don't mean taking a business call, I mean mindlessly scrolling thru things that will be there later - but the event or even the person your with might not be.
I don't tell people how to live, merely suggest things, and if you are like some of the people at my presentation you might be sitting there thinking - shit this is me.
More importantly why I mention this , when people ask me about their training, 99% of the time I can say it's because you're on your damn phone all the time - if you can't be present and focused on your training for 45 minutes because you need to see if someone has liked your #throwbackthursday photo. What else are you missing in life.