So it's common practice these days (probably for the best) if we have a problem with our health, we see a professional. Whether that be mental, physical or otherwise. There is no shortage of methods, qualifications and options. What works best for you , you have to figure that out.
What I believe makes someone great - and by great I don't mean massively financially successful. I mean great at creating change in anyone they are able to guide , coach or 'heal'. Not that theres anything wrong with making a bunch of money, I mean that is why we go about what we do on a daily basis, mainly revolving around money. But what truly sets people apart, and these are people you should seek or if your seeking guidance, or maybe even your looking at going down this path a career, I believe there are three factors. Having experienced the same thing or similar : not to compare who had it worse (as some people do) but its much easier to relate to someone if you've been down that road. Myself I've been down many roads, good and bad , which I guess have given me the versatility to relate to alot of people about things. Battle tested - its all well and good to have qualifications and a great attitude, but without the experience similar circumstances or on top of that not having gotten results with many , or any, people. Its unlikely that these are your likely to both achieve what you set out to do, at least not first go anyway. But thats good experience for both of you. But like I mentioned, if their theories and themselves aren't battle test, maybe shop around. In it for the wrong reasons - Theres nothing wrong with wanting to make money, or be quite well off financial, I mean most people goto shitty jobs for the hourly rate, not because the jobs great, am I right? Be wary of people purely trying to sell you on something, if you feel their genuinely not putting your improvement/goal first. This is easier said then done. Most people who are good at what they do charge accordingly. But having said that there are many people out there charging you for basically nothing that will get you where you want to be, which is a shame because there is many other ways to generate income then play on peoples emotions and challenges. None the less, I hope you find answers, I hope you find a mentor or coach, and maybe even you to can then pass that on to others. This is just my thoughts on what makes people great in self improvement industry. Fittsy.
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7/23/2017 0 Comments its as simple and as easy as that.many people have the conception that being a personal trainer you either listen to peoples problems all day or you are dodgy and promise people the world and give them an atlas.
Admittedly there's both of those things going, but not with as many people as you think. Personally myself, I believe in what I do , I don't have any flashy marketing, money back guarantees, working side by side with a supplement company. Its just me my word, and how I accept payment from people. Why would people invest in me consistently without even knowing me? And then keep working with me consistently , even at the 'risk' of no money back if they fail to achieve what they set out. Firstly its on you, its always on you, I can show you the more effective way , but it's up to you to utilize that information, the same with me/my business/my physique. I've had mentors , trainers, coaches, some have completely changed me for the best, others I've let their knowledge and effort in me goto waste. We all do it, its part of life. Either accepting responsibility or laying blame. But the other thing , its not always about obtaining this 'one' goal you set out to do , sometimes its about the journey along the way, what you learn, who you become, how you grow. You might realize you have a new goal. You might realize you cant keep going full throttle from one goal to the next, you might think 'maybe I want to find the balance between working hard, and enjoying my life' An these are the people I work with, and that's why most of my clients continue to work with me long term, because were not chasing goals, were creating lifestyles - and amazing physiques to go with them. That really sounds simple , but it surprises me when I talk to people and ask them questions like 'where do they want to go?' 'what do they think of themselves?' 'what are they capable of doing' . Generally most don't have an answer and if they do its quite a negative one.
Although I'm in the helping people business, I to am also a work in progress, we all are. Something I've been working with lately, well more focused on particularly, is what I am thinking about most of the time. Its funny I would say i'm positive, optimistic, for the most part. But my the majority of my thoughts were not in sync with that. The same way someone who swears they want to get fit, is unconsciously eating all the wrong foods. I was thinking all the wrong things , most of the time. The common theme across the board with this kind of thing seemed to be set a goal of 30 days of monitoring your thoughts, and if you thought extremely negatively , thought about things that made you sad or even angry - and could not shake the thought within 30 seconds or think of something else or refocus. You had to start the 30 days again. Harder then it sounds. While I've done this , or something similar before, I felt my thought process needed a tune up. The same thing with our bodies, sometimes we need to hire a trainer, see a specialist, get some structure. The thing is with our thoughts, we're the only one that control what's going on in there. So at first it was 3 days, then 7, then 16, and so on. Although if you've got something going on, a death, job loss, illness, this probably isn't the best time to attempt this exercise. (maybe it is) There are times when you are just arn't going to feel great. But for no reason? and consistently? It's time to try something like this then. The best part it while I was consciously taking control of my thoughts (and my energy and vibration) . Things were clicking into place , business, relationships, training , everything was just flowing more and more. Does that mean 'i'm cured' , no I still haven't done my 30 days yet so I'll keep working at it, and I have no doubt in 5 years I'll be attempting something similar to shake myself out of a 'rut'. If somethings worth doing though its worth doing everyday. Be nice , be positive , even when you do feel like it. God speed. Fittsy. life goes in cycles , good and bad. Whats that saying 'bad things come in 3'. I remember a few years back my gym was down sizing, my girlfriend had left me before a planned over seas trip and life had just dealt me an average hand. So as per usual I found myself wandering the streets of Thailand in between gym sessions.
Now this is where things get interesting. Here I am , down , lost, not to motivated, and I cant remember how or why this guy appeared - but I found myself deep in conversation with some random 'yogi' in the street. This is what will always stand out in my memory. Firstly he says to me 'I know you've had a hard life, especially since your Mother died' he reaches into his pocket and hands me a piece of paper with her name written on there. Ok. Then he says I know your girlfriend left you but that is actually a good thing, then again he reaches into his pocket and hands me a small piece of paper - again with her name on it. Spelt correctly - 'alright you have my attention' I said. He went on to tell me about my past , present and future in great detail. Which was in great detail , the future im not so sure because well... its the future. But what he told me the future was looking good. As quick as he appeared, he disappeared. Suddenly I had gone from down/lost, to feeling positive and somewhat happier, instantly. From a stranger, telling me some amazing things. Sure this guy POSSIBLY had some kind of look into the future and past - whether he did or not or it was just an really fucking amazing party trick. This is the difference between positive and optimistic/proactive people to negative pessimistic/destructive people whether they are yogi's that find you at the right time or your best friend who shoots you down when your feeling great, for no real reason. People can completely change your mind-state, outlook of the future, emotion and many other things, even just with a few sentences. IF YOU LET THEM. Becareful who you take advice from , but be open to be guided by the write people. Never a judge a book by its cover , but also trust your instincts about who you listen to. And if people choose to talk about you , good or bad, take it as a compliment. Back then I was never really spiritual and I definitely didn't believe in fortune tellers. But here we are, me telling you about a fortune teller, yogi , changing the course of my life. He also gave me a necklace I still have to this day. 6/29/2017 0 Comments the power of the mindWe all have the keys to exactly what we want , some of us are born into much more fortunate situations then others. Some have to go through somewhat unpleasant experiences at times , but if you're sitting there reading this on your smart phone or pc , I imagine lifes dealt you enough fortune to sit down and read this blog.
What bought you here, what created the technology were using to communicate, what has constructed the majority of your own life. Your mind. My mind operated at a basic level , enough to keep me alive, get me to my teenage years. Where I started to read, I started to learn, I began to study. How did people that came from the same circumstances I did , if not worse. Then get to where I couldn't even imagine or understand how they did it. And that was it - belief. Or imagination. Day Dreaming even, something we are told not to do. Time spent commuting on the train , time spent in mind numbing dead end jobs. In these times I would imagine myself, where I wanted to be, how I wanted to look, what I wanted to be doing. Crazily enough (with a large amount of work, risk and sacrifice) my 'visualization' came some what true. Obviously that dream or image changed some what , as it does , over the years. But this is something we can all do , something some of us forget to do , an then some of has have taken to another level. Visualization , meditation , positive belief / manifestation what ever you want to call it. Not only is this the key to fitness and health goals (if you can believe it, you can achieve it) it is the key to achieving almost anything (the mental side at least) Imagine yourself - doing what you want, driving what you want, being with your ideal partner, living where you want to live. I mean when you really sit down and do this. Even without a tangible plan , you can literally just feel better just by visualizing these things, which can then drive you take massive action. Which is what it generally takes to manifest. But be warned, with great power comes great responsibility, if you let things like the news/tv , negative people, negative thoughts, worrying, etc. Your unlimited power can quickly become your biggest weakness if you do not control the power and content of your thoughts. Just like training in the gym , it takes some time to master, and it needs to be done regularly to bring about change. But it is what gets you started on the rest of your life being the best of your life. God speed. Fittsy. In my early years (which is where I assume we all pick up our behaviors) I was surround by anger, violence, fear and intimidation. These are probably not considered desired qualities or characteristics. But this is what was around me and they are the behavior patterns that I adopted.
They did serve me for sometime. I mean that is why we do anything, behave certain ways. The word literally says it itself. BE a certain way - HAVE to have what you want. Behave - behavior. Now like I said these behaviors had there time and place for what ever reason. But as my goals, life, circle of people changed around me. These behaviors no longer served me. Is it as simple as adopting a new set of behaviors? yes I guess so. But adopting new behaviors is the same as adopting new habits (healthier ones). They begin to feel good at the start, but as stress is added, or pressure, or fear even - we revert back to our old behaviors out of instinct. Which once worked for you, no longer does, and most likely causes more pain. As your old patterns are no longer serving you. Another way I have discovered to really hit this home and find a solution. When you find yourself faced with a situation that could lead to poor behavior or poor habits. Don't allow yourself to reason why its justified , or 'its just one more beer' or find fault in something or someone else. Accept that the outcome is up to you, and when you realize a habit or behavior is not longer serving you, ask yourself - Is this taking me closer or further from where I want to go and who I want to be. You'll know the answer and then you know what to do. God speed. 6/15/2017 0 Comments the most important thing...we are all learning in life, all on the road to recovery at some stage and all on the path to best versions of ourselves (hopefully).
they say most of your problems (or behavioral issues) stem from some kind of childhood trauma or incident. Is that accurate? I don't know. All I can do is share my experiences with you and maybe you can relate. My childhood wasn't great, it wasn't the worst, but it wasn't the best. My biggest problem being at times I treat people I care about the most, the worst. Or at the very least better then I treat a stranger. I caught up with a friend on the weekend, someone I've known for about 10 years. I know many people of admire the trust, respect and connection we have. But it was not always the case, sure we started off friends. Then there was fights, alot of them, we said and did things that caused us not to talk for over a year. Why we started talking again I can't remember, why we stopped I can't remember either. This is what I believe is the most important thing in life, family, friends, what ever you want to call those rock solid relationships in your life. Especially when your on the road to a better life , having people you can call at anytime, trust with your life, tell things to without being judged. Having those relationships are priceless. Like I said though they are not perfect. I mean a years along time to not talk, but not in the scheme of things. I mainly meet people through fitness or the gym (no surprises there) but having moved and traveled around so much , I guess I've created this network or community of positive and like minded people. I like to believe I'm putting in some serious hard work on improving myself and becoming 'better' , but like they say you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. So I must be hanging around some fucking cool people. No ones perfect, but with the right people you can get things pretty close. 6/9/2017 1 Comment Its as simple as just doing it.I come humble beginnings , failed at public school, straight into dead in jobs. Apart from some what successful competitive swimming stint in grade school , no real success or progression in life (until the last few years of my life anyway).
Apart from the qualifications I have in health and fitness, everything is either self taught or manifested through work. And that’s what this blog is about. When people approach me about a certain goal, they either want to know everything in one conversation or they are worried about the things that really don’t matter so much (should I lift heavy or light weights etc). Until you start walking the road, taking the actions, putting in consistent action cramming in all the information is some what (not completely) but some what pointless. It’s like someone that goes to University for 4 years and then leaves to go work in Mcdonalds with no intention of ever using their degree. Not that theres anything wrong with that, live how ever you choose to. But it’s the same thing with what I’m talking about so many people seek out WHAT to do do, google, youtube , trainer advice on their goals. Then take that same information and stick in on the book shelf of their mind. Its great to have a plan, its great to have a trainer. But don’t consume your self in the WHAT just get started in the action. Because whether its fitness, business, or anything else. A lot of the time it’s the ones taking regular and consistent action that reach their goal sooner then ones that have all the information but aren’t doing a single thing with it. Simple advice, but it’s a simple concept, talk less – do more, stop asking what works for you – find out what works for you, stop changing course everytime you find out a new bit of information and just stick at some for a few months and see if its working for you. Simple as that. God speed. What do you have a fear of? Heights? Sharks? Clowns?
I have a fear of moths. No shit. Cripples me, people think its hilarious. But one thing WE ALL fear at some point in our life is fear of what others think of us or at least perceive us. You may know me, or this maybe your first contact with me. I can seem pretty eccentric to someone who has never met me, an attention seeker even - but I always kick you the real deal 99% percent of the time. (that 1% will get ya) That is something I discovered yesterday , I was in a meeting working on something that is basically why I got into the fitness industry and the planets seemed to have aligned and I was talking about something I am 100% real in. Now the person sitting across from me had seen me in person once, and done some research on me in through social media and other sources. (300 youtube videos, 2500 instagram posts and 10,000+ 'fans' on facebook, theres alot info by me or about me). As we spoke for an hour or so they looked me in the eye "are you who you make out to be?" I slowly spat out a hesitant ' yes ' - to paraphrase , because accepting my identity in the flesh, was accepting the good and the bad - and there's alot of both. Alot more good in the last 10 years. So why was I afraid to accept who I was , something I talk about so freely 'being unapologetically you' why was I suddenly so reluctant to back up who I was. I mean every business meeting I've walked away from in a positive position - I've been wearing a tank top and just been myself. It was because I was afraid of who I am (or was) was going to cost me what I wanted. But the reality was I was in that position speaking with this person because of who I am , or well 'was' just as much. Where I had been, what I know, and who I am had put me finally where I wanted to be. Why couldn't I put my hand up. I am Dan Fitts (prisoner 190800) Having working and mastering my craft of being able to teach , train and coach people. From multimillionaires, to the kid the works at the corner cafe. From girls with weight and self esteem issues to grown men with alcohol and drug problems. I can proudly say I have helped 100s, maybe 1000s of people. Am I saint , jesus no. Am I great guy , I can honestly say I'm probably a bit of dick some times ( but hey everyones a work in progress) Just as proud of all the good I've done, I not 'ashamed' so to speak , but I've learnt to wear all my past mistakes. Even using them lessons to others, hilariously naming a program I used to do with kids 'dont do what Dan Fitts does' -did I've pretty open about who I am since Gold Coast , to Phuket to now Townsville. Which leads me to what I'm saying (fear of being yourself - I think that's where this was all going) As I started to go from squeaky clean fitness professional, to create lessons, metaphors and just sharing my past experiences to coach people. I was literally still the exact same fitness professional , the same person even, its that some people didn't like what they were hearing. They liked the old me , the 'squeaky clean me' , when in fact the 'old me' was exactly opposite. A very successful friend of mine once said "if I can help 10,000 people but it means 10,000 people will hate me. I'm still gonna help the 10,000 people." Confidence is key, to success. Any success and confidence has to come from within first before anything manifests in the real world. Fear, lack of confidence, has become almost an epidemic. People building online avatars of who they would like to be , but are no where near the same in person - I mean this both personally and physically. I heard something crazy as young girls will post a photo online and if it doesn't get x amount of likes in x amount of time. They will delete it. Crazy. I'm sure young guys do this to , hell I'm sure older guys have done it. Trust me, post the damn photo , leave it there. Apply for that job , get rejected. Ask that person out, get rejected. You'll live. It will all ultimately lead you somewhere, and you'll never know where unless you try (and by try I mean stick to and commit at something) It's a risk , it is a risk putting yourself on the line. Being 'transparent', but if your in the healing, fitness or health game. It's probably in your best interest to be this way, I've even unbranded myself from Fittman PT to Dan Fitts. 'I'd rather be hated for who I am, then liked for who I am not' Life gave me another set, and I am going to rock. My names Dan Fitts , and I believe it Fitness. God Speed 5/25/2017 0 Comments How much do you want it?I was born in a strange generation, my childhood was somewhere around 'snake' being the most high tech piece of technology on a phone to being an adult being almost completely reliant on my smart phone. (I like to believe i'm using it for business...)
I remember when you couldn't google review gyms, meet the staff on facebook or get workout advice , therapy sessions and every single possible answer at the click of a button on youtube. Although no matter how comfortable, convenient and connected we now are. There is one thing that hasn't changed - you still need to do the fucking work. Whether its change your physique , increase your income , meet that ideal partner - and keep them. Technology hasn't been able to by pass the amazing by product of consistent action. I see it all the time, no matter how many pictures you post of yourself on Instagram of your physique - it won't change without work. No matter how many positive messages you share on facebook , you still need to dig yourself out of lifes challenges and no matter how many self help videos you watch on youtube. You're the one that still needs to take the fucking action. Now depending on which kind of person you are, you might think i'm being pretty realistic or maybe even kind of pessimistic. But there is nothing wrong with work, there is nothing wrong realizing your life is up to you, because this is what shaped me and every other client I've had success with. We live in a soft society. When the going gets tough, instead of rolling up our sleeves and putting in work, we cry and take a 'sick day'. Instead of admiring others doing well , we shoot them down and condemn them - then explain all the reasons why we can't do what there doing. The gym built my physique, the library built my mind, but it was challenges and hard times and never backing down and getting up again and again and again that built my character. And I think that's what most people are lacking , character, integrity , loyalty , resilience. Instead of fighting the good fight and standing up for their dreams, and their beliefs and themselves. We'd rather sit in front of our TV and eat comfort food and drink ourselves stupid on the weekend to hide from the fact a comfortable hell is easier then a unfamiliar heaven. I'm not telling you how to live, I never do, I'm just saying if your unhappy you probably know why, and it's probably going to take work to fix. The same work your not doing that's put you in this position. Hell I do the same thing, but if I missed my shot at something, its because I didn't do the work. Nothing else. |